Mama’s Back.


On my mama’s back

I lay my head

with sleepy eyes

ready for la la land

On my mama’s back

strong yet so soft

To comfort the tired me

Secured knowing I can never fall.

On my mama’s back

I lay myself to rest

Sometimes it’s not because of sleep

I just want to feel her warmth

To smell my mama

Her blood, sweat and love

Makes me rest assured

On my mama’s back

Yawningly I sleep.

(c. OBA2018@Thekingsoracle.


P:S, that’s my little bundle of joy who is now 6months old.


You have a way with words.

Hello beautiful people, welcome to a new week. A fresh opportunity t start again, try again, it’s an unfolding of new opportunities today. This week is quite loaded for me, and I am so excited about the great unfoldings that God has in store for me.

Earlier today, I shared something on my Instagram page like I do every morning, the summary of my Monday motivation is centered on the power of our words. I know you will agree with me that the words that we speak have the ability to make or mar, to build or demolish, to unify or to cause disunity.

Words have the power to change an individual, group and even a nation. And from the pages of the Bible, we know that the universe we are in was framed by words… In the beginning was the word, and that word has been given to humanity to create and recreate…

At every given moment in our daily life, we are using words to convey and to express. Research shows that the average woman uses about 5000 words per day, while the average man uses about 2000 words. In every sphere of life, we use words!

How much of those words do we channel rightly? How much of those words do we use positively?


Words truly have the power to turn things around and you should use them for good, you should use words to inspire others and add value to people’s lives.

As a musician and writer, the use of words is one of my main tools to live a life of purpose. As a woman/wife/mother, the words that I speak go a long way to shape the kind of dynamics in my home and in my family, so it becomes a deliberate and intentional effort for me make sure that my words are seasoned with grace to build up or to inspire the hearer. This is where the real work is.

It is so easy to forget the power of our words as we use them day in, and day out and sometimes our tongues leaves us in great regret if we don’t use them wisely. I was meditating on the book of Matthew 27-How Jesus was handed over to Pontius Pilate. It was rather saddening to hear the people respond to Pilate the Governor, after so much debate about crucifying Christ, Matthew 27:25

And all the people answered and said, His blood be on us and on our children.

This statement is too heavy and not only that it was also transgenerational, at that moment they didn’t know the gravity of the words they’ve just uttered because they were in the heat of the moment. They used their words to pronounce a curse on themselves and even on their unborn innocent children.

How can I be conscious of the words I speak?

From the pages of scriptures, there are many verses on the wise use of words, I will like to share  one or two and try to break it down into bits

1 Peter 3: 10 -Message Bible

Whoever wants to embrace life and see the day fill up with good, here’s what you do: say nothing evil or hurtful.

We all want to enjoy life to the full, see our daily lives filled with joy and happiness, all these can be experienced if we become intentional about the words that flow out from our mouth…  say nothing evil or hurtful

Remember, You have a way with words…

(c. OBA2018@Thekingsoracle.


Some…nothing to write.

I have something to write

but to bring me to write it is the issue

Many thoughts running through my mind

Narrow down and let the ink bleed

I sigh, then yawn

Words let it flow

Not today

Hey rest your head

close your eyes

Just breath…

I have nothing to write.



Crushing On Lupita!

It’s still celebrating Womanhood Wednesday. I’m loving the person of Lupita Nyong’o  today as I came across some of her amazing quotes.

I hope you find inspiration in this insightful quotes.



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Confronting the “shallowness” syndrome.

Hello Womenfolk all around the globe, today is Celebrating Womanhood Wednesday. It also happens to be one of my friend’s birthdays, actually, a friend turned sister. I remember I totally forgot her birthday sometimes ago when she turned Forty, at that time our friendship was going through some rough patches then. But thank God things are getting better with us.

I am using this platform to celebrate my dearest friend turn Sister, Olufunmilayo Alero Gombe a superb birthday today and pray all her desires come to fruition. She is actually doing amazing stuff with her event company, kindly show some love and visit Theeventnanny

Moving right along, today my attention is focused on something that a dear friend of mine, shared on social media, which I want to call the plague of superfluity, confronting the shallowness syndrome.

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Today the hunger for validation and acceptability has made many of our women to become shallow in their pursuit, that all that matters to them is how many likes they are getting from their “slay looks” those that would go to any length make sure they are at par with the jones. You see them popping up photos here and there just for the sake of trending.

There is another category of these women, who spend their time watching Bollywood, Hollywood and all the woods on screen, they hardly can find the button for discovery channel or National Geography. I am not saying that watching those series is bad in itself, but when it becomes all that you do as a woman, then there is a problem.

There is more to womanhood than dependency, social status, and all the false craps that have been peddled to the womenfolk over the years. As women, it is time to go back to God, the designer original of the woman, and discover why we are created the way we are generally and specifically as individuals, I know that the essence of the woman is not in slaying games, or in the hottest gossip in town.

We are made of more, because God has ordained the woman to make a difference in the earth, in her world, in her circle of influence. The woman has been loaded with too much that it will be a disservice to humanity if all she’s known for is “shallowness” and all shades of shades!

To all the women who are already playing an active role in the pursuit of life’s purpose, I say kudos to you, keep on moving don’t stop the world is waiting for you. Ride on majestically and unapologetically

To those who are yet to know what they’re all about, I can tell you boldly that your life is far much more than those designer bags, and Gucci shoes or the hot gossips trending in the media.  It’s time to be really informed about the things that matter in your environment, look around there is a need that has your name on it- You are a solutionist open your eyes.

Understand that time is of the essence, spend your time wisely, watch and pray, build your capacity, develop yourself, enroll in a class if you must, choose the right company – there are lots of networks for women all around that you can join. find one, and be a part of the community of women changing their world one step at a time.You are an Amazon!

I celebrate every woman.

Till I come your way again

Remember, You are a woman phenomenally,

You are loved and celebrated.




Who’s driving your red car?

I bet you’re wondering what the above question is all about. That was my thought too when I was asked that same question sometimes back. I had registered for a masterclass in goal setting and clarity exercise. That move was a bold one for me because the opportunity for enrolment came at such a time that I needed to understand the next level for me.

I have come to realize that as a believer, an unapologetic Christian, sometimes when you pray and ask God for certain things or, you are simply asking for direction, His response to those prayers are often times what we least expect.

Back to my story, I saw the advert of the Masterclass and all that the registration required, A part of me, wanted to jump to it, but the other part of was rather reluctant especially when I saw the requirement in terms of payment, ‘in this economy? you want to pay that amount for a one-day Masterclass session‘, ol’girl you better have a rethink? That was the other part of me.

I summoned up courage and gather all my savings at that time, went ahead to register. At the point of registration, I knew there was no turning back, not after parting with such amount of money anyway.

The day came, and I drove myself all the way to the other side of Lagos, I had left the house early enough, as my custom, when I am not too familiar with place and I have to be there on appointment, I make sure I leave home about an hour or more in order to find my way around, and knowing Lagos with unexpected traffic jam,you don’t   want to risk being late. Though I still lost my way to the venue, thank goodness I got there before the class started.

There were about 15-20 people from different walks of life who also registered for the same Masterclass, most were already seated as I walked into the small room where the class was going to hold. As soon as we were all seated a stout looking young man probably in his mid-thirties walked in, greeted everyone and introduced himself as the assistant to the Coach who will be taking us through the session, with his contagious smile, as he greeted us , I couldn’t help but notice the joy in his voice as he kept talking to us- he was in his zone doing what he loved and I could tell because you could see passion oozing out of him as he spoke and moved about.

He introduced the main coach, as he made his way into the class. Clad in his usual neat shirt over a pair of dark blue denim, Coach L is unarguably one of the best dress men in town, I have seen him on various social media platforms and can tell that he had a knack for style and simplicity. After the exchange of pleasantries across the board it was time for the real deal.

I sat in the first row of the class so that I will not miss out on anything, he approached us one after the other, asking a different question from each person. When he got to me, his question was,”who is driving your red car?

Immediately, I traveled back in time to my undergraduates days in the university, I used to dream of having a sleek Porsche red car, those memories came rushing back in milliseconds as I asked myself, “how did he know about my red car? No one else knows about “the red car” except me, I thought to myself. But he wasn’t really talking about a red car in the real sense of it.

As we progressed on in the class, he explained the concept behind “who is driving your car? it’s all about letting other people take control of life. Giving them the power to steer the wheel of your being- in essence, they become the driver and you are the passenger, as you watched them make decisions for you- They are driving your red car!

As we went on, I discovered that over time I had given others precedence to control my life. As a growing child back in the days, I remembered how I desperately wanted to be accepted by my peers and found myself in a compromise.

Because of the need for validations from others, you end up becoming a slave to what they want, running here and there to please others and never turning in to your own needs , the desire to please others squashes your own dreams and you end up molding your life to fit the opinion of others- being there done that. As I write this a scripture comes to mind in the book of Isaiah which talks about the lawful captive being free from the mighty.

In other words, you are somewhat a lawful captive when you give the rein of your personality and your true happiness for others to control. So how do you put a stop to the control of others in your life, or better put, how do you take back the steering of your red car- and take full responsibility of the ride because you want to start driving your car?

Take Responsibility

You must have the courage and confidence to start making your own decisions. The truth is most times when we worry about the opinions of others, it is actually a projection of own fears and internalized judgment. What would happen if I decide to quit this job? what will my family say? But once we are able to confront the fear you will discover at the end of the day, that others let go very quickly.



Stop Comparison

I believe it was last year that the Lord dropped something like the 3C’s code in my heart- you are not competing, you are to compare and don’t compromise. That was a major mantra that I am still running with. stop looking at what everyone else is doing and fix your eyes on your own lane, because no one’s life is the same as others, therefore do you! a comparison is like self-imposed torture do not do it.

Boost your Self-worth.

Yes, you are allowed to boost your self-esteem, you are the only one that can give yourself that esteem nobody else, not even your spouse or children, just you. Stop overvaluing the opinions of others above yours. Celebrate yourself even when you fail at something because that failure just means that you’ve discovered how not to do that same thing again.

If someone has been driving your red car, it’s time to take back your car keys and start driving yourself.

(c. OBA2018@Thekingsoracle.


What sacrifice are willing to make?

Wow! it another weekend people. This month is fast running out. Well, it’s all good for as long as you are pursuing purpose with each passing day. You are in safe hands.

Earlier today I tried visualizing how my whole week had panned out from Monday till today, and for some reason, I gave myself a pat in the back because I was actually able to move in the direction of my dreams to the best of my ability.

Though it wasn’t 100%, It was still passed mark, unlike before, where I would just be lost in so many activities that were not necessarily pointing in the direction of my pursuit of happiness.

Lately, in order to be able to achieve my goals, I have been able to develop a system which enables me to take at least 2-3 hours every day to separate myself from the rest of the world and just focus on the things I need to do more to foster growth. An all-around growth in all the areas of my life, and I have discovered that in reaching your goals there major factors that you must consider in order to enjoy that passion filled the everyday life of yours.

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Calving out time out of busy schedules to pursue the goals and dreams in your heart isn’t always easy, especially for a new mom like me, yes I have two young boys who can run a few errands without supervision a little lad who is barely 6 months old, who is practically glued to mummy, so it so hard that I had to forfeit certain pleasures in order to have that time to myself – Now I cut down time spent in front of the TV. After I make sure everyone’s had dinner at about 7pm, that’s the time the baby is also set for bed. I  take off to the other room and I am there until about 11pm or thereabouts touching base with the vision board.


You will agree with me that energy is dissipated in one form or another as you progress towards the life you want, physical energy is there, which is quite easy, but what about mental and or emotional energy?  blocking your mind in order to avoid stress from trivial issues that drain your creative ability. Sometimes I find myself in that situation and I will just drop everything, but lately, I am learning to just be silent about certain things, and let those little problems roll over my shoulder so that it doesn’t drain the life out of me, having all boys to handle can sometimes drain enthusiasm out of a mother. that’s in the home front, you can also apply such rule to your work life, for example, you decide not to talk about work after office hour because you don’t to bring in the office atmosphere back to your personal space.


As a result of the desire to become a better version of myself,  and with only 24 hours in a day to focus on those goals sometimes you have to be selfish and dedicate the majority of the time to pursue those goals, what that often translate into is that you might not be there all the time to watch your favorite TV shows with the family, or even have the luxury of time to hang out with loved ones on special occasions and all the other events.

However, the consolation here is that those affected the most by this sacrifice will be the ones to enjoy when the rewards of all the sacrifices begin to show in tangible realities. when they see that you are more content and fulfilled in your life it will also rub off on them because your success is their success.



Excuses, excuses here and there. I once had a bag full of excuses, “I don’t have the time”, “how will I take care of my family”, ‘i’m too scared’. The honest truth is that we are more comfortable not doing the things that need to be done, so we come up “fabricated fear” which paralyzes us out of sheer laziness. we make excuses for why we can’t, and then give pleasure to standing still in life, and justify our inaction with the “I can’t” which cheats us out of a fabulous fulfilled life.

My question to you now is are you ready to rid off all the excuses that are hindering the pursuit of greater you in every area of your life?  I am so ready because I am tired of just fantasizing about a great everyday life when all I need to do is make a commitment and damn the excuses.


Yours in the journey 


(c. OBA2018@Thekingsoracle.

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I’m possible.


On my way to this reality

with much trepidation

Inexplicable anxiety

I’m possible 

And that’s enough for me.


I’m possible

In the meantime of my life’s journey

Taking advantage of every downtime

And  preparation time

Because the celebration of my highlight reels

Is within my time on mother earth

I’m possible.


I’m possible

Able to do much more

In love with the reality of me

Accepted in the beloved

flooded with mercy

Encapsulated in Grace


I’m possible.





Wear it like perfume!

TodayOn my blog site, is a day I dedicate to write about everything and anything related to the woman- CELEBRATING WOMANHOOD WEDNESDAY, So I decided to reblog this from my 2016 archives. Happy Reading.

OBA- TheKingsoracle.

celebrating womanhood

Every Wednesday I try to write something about Womanhood. Whether it’s a poem, prose, story anything to celebrate all the women in the world. It is also an opportunity for me to understand the dynamism of the Female gender, who she is and why she is what she is.

As I studied and search for what the focus should be  for this week, I thought about ‘Perfume’.  That’s one of a girl’s best friend if you ask me.  Every woman whether four or forty as a special affinity for perfumes.

A woman’s perfume tells more about her than her handwriting- Christian Dior.

That is so profound coming from Christian Dior, best known as the founder of one of the world’s top fashion houses, which is named after Him. Indeed, you can tell something about a woman from the fragrance of her perfume.

For someone like me, I wear different types of fragrance…

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Valentine or no Valentine.

loveLove is life, so it should be celebrated on a daily basis.

I really don’t give much thought to Valentines Day, because I believe every day is a valentine day.

From the part of the world where I am from, a lot of people go overboard in trying to celebrate this Valentine, to the detriment of themselves and their loved ones. That’s no longer love, it has become something else.

Valentine or no Valentine, Remember always that you are LOVED and you are special to God.

To the young people out there, Valentine’s day does not license for premarital sex, don’t  complicate your lives, love is not sex, sex is not loving. 

Premarital Sex is selfishness, wanting covenant pleasures without covenant commitments.

To the married and no Vals, take time to remind yourself of the selfless commitment you made to each other, and find ways to bring sparkle into that fire of love that burns in your heart, Value one and another and take time to always celebrate.

To the singles and no Vals, Love on yourself, never think that because you don’t have a date, something is wrong with you.  Your validation is not on your date. You are the one who gives value to you. Don’t be pressured into compromise.

Valentine or no Valentine, God loves endures. He wants you to be his Own! Christ’s love towards us is unparalleled, never to be compared with any. His love is the best you can ever get.

On that note,

Happy Valentine’s Day