I took a deep breath , Hmm! I sighed. Parental Care,nurturing and everything running through my mind. Lord help me I Muttered a word of prayer.
This morning, my younger son came into my room, holding a book in his hands. It was a book my Husband bought some years back when we started raising children- How To Raise A Gentleman by Kay West.
“Mum, Can I Show you something? He asked”.
Yes ,what is it? Then he opened the first chapter of the book- Leading the way to good manners-26 Things to remember. I knew I was in for some serious debate as he began to point out a few things and coincidently they were points I had noted while I read the book a while back.
Let me show you some of the points he showed me.
*Listen to your child when he speaks to you,even if you’ve heard it before.
* Do not discipline your child in front of others.
*Do not give in to temper tantrums.( I looked into his eyes ,like did you read that, and he gave a grin like mom we are talking about you. We started our discuss, of course, he was trying to be defensive based on the book ,and I ask him , have you read any book that talks about how to behave like a gentleman, how to respond to your parents.
( I looked into his eyes ,like did you read that, and he gave a grin like mom we are talking about you. We started our discuss, of course, he was trying to be defensive based on the book ,and I ask him , have you read any book that talks about how to behave like a gentleman, how to respond to your parents.
As we went back and forth, I just couldn’t help but reminisce on those times,when they were still tiny tots, how I cuddled and breastfed,stay awake all nights because the crying baby won’t stop whining.
That tiny tot is now showing and telling me how to raise him to be a gentleman, I said Lord, please help me! It is amazing to know that they are growing day by day and watching everything we do as parents.
Every action and every word spoken is captured in their hearts,and sometimes you just see them doing some things and saying things that make you wonder.
This same 10year old has been asking me to get him a laptop for Christmas,and I asked him,what he wanted to use a laptop for, he told me he wants to start blogging like his mummy. I laughed!
I told him it wasn’t time yet for him start using such gadget ,that he should start writing in his notebook, that was how I started. He said if somebody who is 7 years old can have a laptop why can’t he?
There and then, we had to start another discussion on not comparing ourselves with others, being content with who we are and what we have. Sometimes I even don’t know what else or how else to respond to them.
Parenting can be such a hard work, I wondered how my mom coped with me and my five siblings? but then it is obvious that the strategies of the early 70’s -80’s are almost obsolete to want is obtained in this day and age.
One truth remains unchanged and unshaken through the ages, though.
Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old ,he will not depart from it
My prayer for every parent is that God will help us to mirror Christ, through the integrity of heart and strength of character to our children appropriately . That we will help them to understand that as their parents we are co-workers to make sure that they become everything they have been designed to be and do, on this side of eternity present.
We are not macho men and women,we are humans and sometimes we don’t know all as parents.
From a work-in-progress parent!
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