Oops Baby!

She suddenly realizes 

life has taken a new turn

It’s no longer business as usual

A little soul is here to consider

Suddenly life has new meaning

As she held on to his tiny hands

Soft and fragile 

Delicately holding  momma

It’s her oops! baby…suddenly

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(c.OBA2018@Thekingsoracle.

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Mama’s Back.

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On my mama’s back

I lay my head

with sleepy eyes

ready for la la land

On my mama’s back

strong yet so soft

To comfort the tired me

Secured knowing I can never fall.

On my mama’s back

I lay myself to rest

Sometimes it’s not because of sleep

I just want to feel her warmth

To smell my mama

Her blood, sweat and love

Makes me rest assured

On my mama’s back

Yawningly I sleep.

(c. OBA2018@Thekingsoracle.

 

P:S, that’s my little bundle of joy who is now 6months old.

What sacrifice are willing to make?

Wow! it another weekend people. This month is fast running out. Well, it’s all good for as long as you are pursuing purpose with each passing day. You are in safe hands.

Earlier today I tried visualizing how my whole week had panned out from Monday till today, and for some reason, I gave myself a pat in the back because I was actually able to move in the direction of my dreams to the best of my ability.

Though it wasn’t 100%, It was still passed mark, unlike before, where I would just be lost in so many activities that were not necessarily pointing in the direction of my pursuit of happiness.

Lately, in order to be able to achieve my goals, I have been able to develop a system which enables me to take at least 2-3 hours every day to separate myself from the rest of the world and just focus on the things I need to do more to foster growth. An all-around growth in all the areas of my life, and I have discovered that in reaching your goals there major factors that you must consider in order to enjoy that passion filled the everyday life of yours.

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TIME

Calving out time out of busy schedules to pursue the goals and dreams in your heart isn’t always easy, especially for a new mom like me, yes I have two young boys who can run a few errands without supervision a little lad who is barely 6 months old, who is practically glued to mummy, so it so hard that I had to forfeit certain pleasures in order to have that time to myself – Now I cut down time spent in front of the TV. After I make sure everyone’s had dinner at about 7pm, that’s the time the baby is also set for bed. I  take off to the other room and I am there until about 11pm or thereabouts touching base with the vision board.

ENERGY

You will agree with me that energy is dissipated in one form or another as you progress towards the life you want, physical energy is there, which is quite easy, but what about mental and or emotional energy?  blocking your mind in order to avoid stress from trivial issues that drain your creative ability. Sometimes I find myself in that situation and I will just drop everything, but lately, I am learning to just be silent about certain things, and let those little problems roll over my shoulder so that it doesn’t drain the life out of me, having all boys to handle can sometimes drain enthusiasm out of a mother. that’s in the home front, you can also apply such rule to your work life, for example, you decide not to talk about work after office hour because you don’t to bring in the office atmosphere back to your personal space.

SOCIAL SACRIFICE

As a result of the desire to become a better version of myself,  and with only 24 hours in a day to focus on those goals sometimes you have to be selfish and dedicate the majority of the time to pursue those goals, what that often translate into is that you might not be there all the time to watch your favorite TV shows with the family, or even have the luxury of time to hang out with loved ones on special occasions and all the other events.

However, the consolation here is that those affected the most by this sacrifice will be the ones to enjoy when the rewards of all the sacrifices begin to show in tangible realities. when they see that you are more content and fulfilled in your life it will also rub off on them because your success is their success.

 

EXCUSE

Excuses, excuses here and there. I once had a bag full of excuses, “I don’t have the time”, “how will I take care of my family”, ‘i’m too scared’. The honest truth is that we are more comfortable not doing the things that need to be done, so we come up “fabricated fear” which paralyzes us out of sheer laziness. we make excuses for why we can’t, and then give pleasure to standing still in life, and justify our inaction with the “I can’t” which cheats us out of a fabulous fulfilled life.

My question to you now is are you ready to rid off all the excuses that are hindering the pursuit of greater you in every area of your life?  I am so ready because I am tired of just fantasizing about a great everyday life when all I need to do is make a commitment and damn the excuses.

 

Yours in the journey 

 

(c. OBA2018@Thekingsoracle.

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How my life took a turn….Life Lesson 1

2017, Will forever be an unforgettable year of twists and turns for me. I don’t think I will ever forget that year, not in a hurry anyway.

Towards the year-end 2016, I embark on certain journeys to becoming a better version of me. I enrolled in Leadership Institutes, Purpose academy here and there.to crown that year up, I signed up for a goal setting master class with one of Nigeria’s finest Life coaches.

By the time I was done with the Masterclass, oh my, This girl was ready to take 2017 by storm. I had just been thoroughly tutored on how to maximize every 12 areas of my life for peak performance, talked about being turbocharged. Yes, I was ready…

As we entered into the new year, I started off with a strategy session I had planned to do with a few of my friends in attendance, my living room was filled with people who were professional, business owners in their own right. we had a long session and it was a success from the feedback I got afterwards.  One mission accomplished and ticked off, it looks like it going to be a great year after all.

I had also started writing a new book, with the tasks of writing at least 500 words per day, things were really looking up.  with regards to my music ministry assignment, I had the privileged opportunity to minister in songs to inmates at the maximum prison in Lagos, that was a surreal experience for me, as I saw men and women who were incarcerated, without any hope of amnesty, worship God with their whole heart as if there was no tomorrow.

Things were happening according to plan, except for the fact that I began to notice an unusualness in my body physiology, to the extent that one afternoon, my appetite took a strange turn, that was when I knew something wasn’t right. For the life of me, I didn’t pay any attention to my menstrual circle because it wasn’t always a regular flow and because I was almost nearing the menopausal stage I couldn’t be bothered so to speak.

Little did I know what I was in for. Still feeling that unusualness in my body, I decided to take a pregnancy test just to be sure it wasn’t what I was not thinking. Lo and behold the test came positive. I WAS PREGNANT!!

No way! How come? This must be a mistake! Not me? LORD why me? This is not what I planned for? at what age? after how many years? This must be some kind of joke. As the many questions reeled out in my mind, it seems my whole world of excitement and enthusiasm for the new year just collapsed.

Instead of being excited about the pregnancy, the feeling of sadness and disappointment overwhelmed me. I wasn’t expecting this kind of news in my wildest imagination. Almost immediately all the drive to tick off my pursuit for the year was replaced by hormonal imbalance.

Proverbs 19:21

Many are the plans in a man’s heart but it is the plan of God that will prevail.

This scripture was my number one lesson. I had planned so many things that I would do by God’s grace, little did I know that God had a major plan for me. Despite the fact that I went into depression for months, He never failed to always reassure me, that everything was going to be alright. In case you are wondering why I was sad and depressed over something that I should be jumping for Joy. Well! I didn’t ask to be pregnant, as far as I was concerned I had been done with making babies for over 12 years now.

Another Scripture also in Proverbs, say;

Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring forth.

Pro.27:1

It’s okay to make plans, don’t get me wrong because we cant just go about living life without focus, but at the same time we should bear in mind that life’s unpredictable and we shouldn’t presume on it, on the other hand, there is no need to worry because we know that God is in control. I couldn’t realise that sooner, I was blinded by the fact that all my plans and desires had been ruined by my new status. I couldn’t fathom in my myopic mind that God had a better idea for my 2017 than I could imagine.

 

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Feeding my newborn after the naming ceremony on the eighth day.

 

TO BE CONTINUED!

(c)OBA@Thekingsoracle2018.

30 days of Gratitude November.

Hello Everyone, it great to be back here on WordPress. What a way to get my blogging groove back, sharing my gratitude for each day. I saw something that caught my fancy earlier today on Facebook and decided to use it as my writing inspiration- 30 DAYS OF GRATITUDE.

DAY 1: WHAT SMELL ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR?

I am grateful for the smell of my children. I am a proud mother of two high-energy boys,who never let an opportunity of play slip by. When they go out to play and come home with sweat flowing off them like it raising to reach the mountain,off course they wipe the sweat with what ? Their clothes.That smell is a sign of their ability to run around,exercise  and a blessing of Motherhood.

They say you can tell much about a person by their smell because there  are many factors that affect how you smell at a given time- The gift of being alive and active on the playground is a great smell that I will forever be grateful for ?

May I ask you this same question , “what smell are you grateful for? I will be delighted to read your thoughts too.

 

 

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The smell of sweat , the sweat of smell.

 

I am grateful for the blessing of smell.

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Parental Care….we are mirror images.

train-upI took a deep breath, Hmm! I sighed. Parental Care, nurturing and everything running through my mind. Lord help me I Muttered a word of prayer.

This morning, my younger son came into my room, holding a book in his hands. It was a book my Husband bought some years back when we started raising children- How To Raise A Gentleman by Kay West.

“Mum, Can I Show you something? He asked”.

Yes , what is it? Then he opened the first chapter of the book- Leading the way to good manners-26 Things to remember. I knew I was in for some serious debate as he began to point out a few things and coincidently they were points I had noted while I read the book a while back.

Let me show you some of the points he showed me.

*Listen to your child when he speaks to you, even if you’ve heard it before.

Do not discipline your child in front of others.

*Do not give in to temper tantrums.( I looked into his eyes, like did you read that, and he gave a grin like mom we are talking about you. We started our discussion, of course, he was trying to be defensive based on the book, and I ask him, have you read any book that talks about how to behave like a gentleman, how to respond to your parents.

( I looked into his eyes, like did you read that, and he gave a grin like mom we are talking about you. We started our discussion, of course, he was trying to be defensive based on the book, and I ask him, have you read any book that talks about how to behave like a gentleman, how to respond to your parents.

As we went back and forth, I just couldn’t help but reminisce on those times, when they were still tiny tots, how I cuddled and breastfed, stay awake all nights because the crying baby won’t stop whining.

That tiny tot is now showing and telling me how to raise him to be a gentleman, I said Lord, please help me! It is amazing to know that they are growing day by day and watching everything we do as parents.

Every action and every word spoken is captured in their hearts, and sometimes you just see them doing some things and saying things that make you wonder.

This same 10year old has been asking me to get him a laptop for Christmas, and I asked him, what he wanted to use a laptop for, he told me he wants to start blogging like his mummy. I laughed!

I told him it wasn’t time yet for him start using such gadget , that he should start writing in his notebook, that was how I started.  He said if somebody who is 7 years old can have a laptop why can’t he?

There and then, we had to start another discussion on not comparing ourselves with others, being content with who we are and what we have. Sometimes I even don’t know what else or how else to respond to them.

Parenting can be such a hard work, I wondered how my mom coped with me and my five siblings? but then it is obvious that the strategies of the early 70’s -80’s are almost obsolete to want is obtained in this day and age.

One truth remains unchanged and unshaken through the ages, though.

Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old ,he will not depart from it

My prayer for every parent is that God will help us to mirror Christ, through the integrity of heart and strength of character to our children appropriately. That we will help them to understand that as their parents we are co-workers to make sure that they become everything they have been designed to be and do, on this side of eternity present.

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We are not macho men and women, we are humans and sometimes we don’t know all as parents.

From a work-in-progress parent!

 

OBA2016@Thekingsoracle. All rights reserved.

 

 

 

 

Dear Deprive!

Dear deprive

Can we have a talk?

Why did  you make mother

Do this to her children

This is sheer wickedness

He said to dear deprive

Little did he know

That Mother knows best

You may not understand it now boy

Sometimes tomorrow,

You will be grateful

For dear deprive was a blessing in disguise

Because You became a Great man

Dear Deprive and Mother

Was a great combo

For the Man of Honour

You became today.

 

In response to Daily Prompt DEPRIVE.

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Is It harder for Women in the Music world?

Hi everyone, it’s #MondayMusic&Me. This time, I’ll be focusing on women and challenges in the music industry.

Let’s start off with a quick little exercise. On a piece of paper, off the top of your head (don’t think too much about it), list ten great songwriters or musicians that you know. Now look at the list.How many women do you have on it? Maybe one, two or three?

If you ever had the chance to witness a music festival or concert or even see the lineup of artistes performing, the ratio of female to male performers is usually low.

It can be arguably said that male artistes are usually regarded more seriously than their female contemporaries. Just head on over to YouTube and have a look at the comments that trail the video of  a female artiste.  A lot of times, the comments relate to the artiste’s physical appearance -what she’s wearing, her physique, her hair, her shoes and on and on –  rather than her talent/performance.

Now, I’m a female singer/songwriter, so it’s natural that I am concerned about this issue. There are those with no real talent, but a lot of ‘show’. They have adopted the strategy that sex sells, and yes, sex does sell, but not everyone is buying, and eventually, even those who buy will still turn around and crave real music from those who can give it even if they aren’t baring it all.

When women are portrayed or viewed as sex symbols, it becomes harder to give any credence or regards to their ability to have a music career. So we have music producers and label owners, who approach talented female musicians, holding the promise of a brighter career in music in one hand, and on the other, the condition to ‘sleep’ their  way to that career.

When you decide to become an Indie artiste, you are faced with another set of challenges. This is the category I fall into. You’re on a never-ending quest to abate  the self-doubt and absence of  a steady income, and like a Reverend  who has answered his calling, you cannot turn back or quit.

In my experience, I have realized that it takes confidence and courage to act upon your vision; to go out of your comfort zone into the world for everyone to see. Without finances, and necessary moral support, it is even harder, but with the grace of God and conviction, your passion for your music, and your determination, you will keep going.

In addition to all this, when I added being a mom to the mix of being a woman and being an Indie artist, I came up with the term, ‘Momusician’.

My role as a Momusician puts me at crossroads every waking hour of the day. Imagine writing a song at one point, then doing school runs, on the other hand, battling to be present at their school activities, planning  my ministrations and performances, all the while also making sure that I’m meeting their needs – physical, emotional, spiritual, psychological,educational and everything else in-between.

Right from their birth, my boys were always going around with me, save for a few instances where they had to be babysat; and now that they are nearing teenagehood, I’m up for another phase to navigate them through. All glory to God for every step of the journey!

I’d say that in all honesty, it is harder for women/mothers to break into and maintain their stay in the music world. But if  women who are in this music industry can begin to understand  and realize that their femininity surpasses their physical assets, their sojourn as musicians will not be short-lived.

I would like to hear from you. Can you share some of the challenges  that you think are confronting the female artiste?

Shalom.

 

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Motherhood On My Mind!

 

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Pulling the child

Against her breast

As she revelled in the loving warmth

of the precious seed, heaven thrust on her

A tiny innocent being

So trusting as its cling to its mother

Trusting her for its sustenance, well-being and security

Not only the milk from her breast will sustain

But her love, her care

The impartation ignited by the bond between them.

The Impartation from her heart, her very soul and spirit.

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The child has been born

Purpose has been birthed

The purpose that will unfold through time

And In time.

The child and its Mother

The Mother and her Child

Two inseparable being

Both needing each other

As they breathe the same air

There is an Invisible cord

growing tighter and tighter.

The price of motherhood is a great price

The intensity of a mother’s love is Legendary!

What a mother will do, the extent a mother would go to protect her children is unimaginable.

It’s the International Woman’s day today. It was Mothering Sunday on Sunday.

I salute all the Girls, Ladies, Women, Mothers, Sisters, Aunts, Girlfriends.

To every potential woman and Mother.

Cheers to a beautiful life of sacrifice and great commitment to better the lives of others.

 

My beautiful thoughts on Motherhood In response to Jackie’s Thinking corner

 

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Hey Woman! Your work matters.

I got an invite to come speak at a Women’s conference, it will be the 2nd speaking engagement in the space of weeks,I mean ever since I began to make a conscious effort to start on my second life mission- SAY IT. So excited I am finally getting into the Speaking zone yayyy!! *dancing*.

The topic is understanding the relationship between career and God: with emphasis on the “Womenfolk”. Oops!  Time to get to work,womanhood,femininity and everything related to the female gender makes my adrenaline rush with excitement. The seminar is not a coincidence neither is the topic,this is God at work. As I prepared and made research,  here are some of my thoughts as regards the topic.

Research showed that in the 1970s more women began to work or reentered the workforce than at any other time during this century,Today all over the globe,millions and millions of  women are emerging as career women in the fore front of globalization and industrialization,a great number of Christian women are among this statistics. The myth of the ideal woman whether christian or otherwise as full time  house wife or mother lies shattered in the face of global revolution.

Today,a great number of women around  the world are in pursuit,discoverying and rediscoverying their career path. Because the conference was centred around the christian women in particular,how does the woman understand that her work/career/calling  and her relationship with God matters a lot.

WHY DO WE PURSUE CAREER/WORK/CALLING.

The Bible recalls in the book of the beginnings, How God work for several days.Work by its very nature is creative.Taking an infinite number of forms,it is the direct  effort to produce or accomplish something. Gen 1:1-28. God exemplies this creative aspect and then gave humanity the charge to continue to be productive in every chosen endeavour or work or career. (Further reading Gen 1-29-30).

WHAT DOES GOD WANT WITH MY CAREER/WORK/CALLING.

In the course of pursuing  a career path or life long calling I have discovered that one burning desire in my heart is that God is glorified in all that I do.(I am not trying to be ambigious with that statement or trying to be religious in any case),but the underlying desire has always been how to showcase God’s awesomeness and goodness through what I do,by making sure that my work/career/calling is of great benefit to others.

Principle #1-It is very Important to understand as Christian women,in any career path we may have chosen to follow, our priority first and foremost is Intimacy with God. Our first priority is our relationship with God which takes precedence over every other thing.

Principle#2- God has created each one of us with the aptitude for particular skills and abilities with inclination towards particular interest- In as much as we seek God concerning career path- There is no place in the bible where it is specified that you should be a lawyer, accountant or a chef. Yes we desire to please God in every area of our lives,what God has already done is to input in us certain traits to guide us in our choices. Your unique traits and design is the most important factor in making career decisions or work,but sometimes it is not the case as many women find themselves in career path they dislike because of the societal challenges, be that as it may  God expects you to take responsibility of making good decisions about how to use your gifts in the marketplace. Thus it is expedient for us to prayerfully ad thoughtfully decide which path to tread.

As Christian women our faith has a practical implication to our lives.Therefore our work or career becomes a form of worship when we dedicate it to God  and perform our responsibilities witha an awareness of his presence. When it comes to career path and workplace there is a general view secular view which believes that life is divided into two disconnected part.

a). God is in a spiritual dimension and therefore not concerned

b).Work or career is in the other real dimension .Both have nothing to do with each other, God is up there and I stay here minding my business.

These views  is a set up for disappointment,for if you leave God out of the equation,what happens when you lose your job or something unexpected happens to your career.  Your work does not define you-as most people has made it to be. These views also tend to make our career become idols -It becomes the no 1 priority in life, your relationship with God,family, takes the back seat..This is not acceptable as christian women.God has called us to make him the centre of our lives.

BIBLICAL EXAMPLES OF WOMEN WHO PURSUED CAREER/WORK/CALLING.

As Christian women in these contemporary age, we have examples of women from the bible days who understood their career and their place in God and where able to thrive within and outside the home.

  • Deborah worked as a judge in Israel.Judge4-5, Anna worked at the temple.Luke2:36-38.
  • Anna worked at the temple. Luke 2:36-38.
  • Tabitha worked in the Community sewing clothes for the needy.Acts 9:36,39.

Did I mention Esther who was queen in another country and used her capacity as royalty to help liberate the Jewish race.Each of these women clearly excelled both within and outside their homes.Today there is an exponential rise and increase of christian women doing valiantly in careers,work etcetera. We have Ibukun Awosika a woman who recently became the chairman of a world renowned bank,Folorunsho Alakija who is the richest woman in Nigeria,and many more. So do we as christian women understand the dynamics of our career/work/calling and our relationship with God.

PRACTICAL TIPS TO UNDERSTAND AND APPLY.

1.See your  career/work/calling through the Kingdom dream. Whatever you do matters when you put God first,not compromising principles of God  and not jeopardizing the work ethics,and use every opprtunity to minister to others.

2.Understand that it is not always about money (completely)! Matt6:33. Ask any of the successful women either in business,ministry or career,you will find out that there were few times when money was not the sole reason for doing what they did,and what they are still doing. (Don’t get me wrong,I know money is very important but should not be the primary focus.

3. Do what you do very well. As christian women we are a reflection of our Heavenly Father and we have been given the spirit of excellence  to thrive in any field or career or ministry, as a result excellence cannot be compromised. Pro 31:29.

“The place where God calls you is where you deep gladness  meet thw world’s deep hunger”.-Frederick Buechner.

https//naijaenterprise/folorunsho-richest-woman-in-nigeria.   http://www.punchng.com/life-ibukun-awosika.