How my life took a turn….Life Lesson 1

2017, Will forever be an unforgettable year of twists and turns for me. I don’t think I will ever forget that year, not in a hurry anyway.

Towards the year-end 2016, I embark on certain journeys to becoming a better version of me. I enrolled in Leadership Institutes, Purpose academy here and there.to crown that year up, I signed up for a goal setting master class with one of Nigeria’s finest Life coaches.

By the time I was done with the Masterclass, oh my, This girl was ready to take 2017 by storm. I had just been thoroughly tutored on how to maximize every 12 areas of my life for peak performance, talked about being turbocharged. Yes, I was ready…

As we entered into the new year, I started off with a strategy session I had planned to do with a few of my friends in attendance, my living room was filled with people who were professional, business owners in their own right. we had a long session and it was a success from the feedback I got afterwards.  One mission accomplished and ticked off, it looks like it going to be a great year after all.

I had also started writing a new book, with the tasks of writing at least 500 words per day, things were really looking up.  with regards to my music ministry assignment, I had the privileged opportunity to minister in songs to inmates at the maximum prison in Lagos, that was a surreal experience for me, as I saw men and women who were incarcerated, without any hope of amnesty, worship God with their whole heart as if there was no tomorrow.

Things were happening according to plan, except for the fact that I began to notice an unusualness in my body physiology, to the extent that one afternoon, my appetite took a strange turn, that was when I knew something wasn’t right. For the life of me, I didn’t pay any attention to my menstrual circle because it wasn’t always a regular flow and because I was almost nearing the menopausal stage I couldn’t be bothered so to speak.

Little did I know what I was in for. Still feeling that unusualness in my body, I decided to take a pregnancy test just to be sure it wasn’t what I was not thinking. Lo and behold the test came positive. I WAS PREGNANT!!

No way! How come? This must be a mistake! Not me? LORD why me? This is not what I planned for? at what age? after how many years? This must be some kind of joke. As the many questions reeled out in my mind, it seems my whole world of excitement and enthusiasm for the new year just collapsed.

Instead of being excited about the pregnancy, the feeling of sadness and disappointment overwhelmed me. I wasn’t expecting this kind of news in my wildest imagination. Almost immediately all the drive to tick off my pursuit for the year was replaced by hormonal imbalance.

Proverbs 19:21

Many are the plans in a man’s heart but it is the plan of God that will prevail.

This scripture was my number one lesson. I had planned so many things that I would do by God’s grace, little did I know that God had a major plan for me. Despite the fact that I went into depression for months, He never failed to always reassure me, that everything was going to be alright. In case you are wondering why I was sad and depressed over something that I should be jumping for Joy. Well! I didn’t ask to be pregnant, as far as I was concerned I had been done with making babies for over 12 years now.

Another Scripture also in Proverbs, say;

Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring forth.

Pro.27:1

It’s okay to make plans, don’t get me wrong because we cant just go about living life without focus, but at the same time we should bear in mind that life’s unpredictable and we shouldn’t presume on it, on the other hand, there is no need to worry because we know that God is in control. I couldn’t realise that sooner, I was blinded by the fact that all my plans and desires had been ruined by my new status. I couldn’t fathom in my myopic mind that God had a better idea for my 2017 than I could imagine.

 

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Feeding my newborn after the naming ceremony on the eighth day.

 

TO BE CONTINUED!

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Tell It As It Is.

Over the weekend there was a discussion that came up from the online University that I enrolled in #Purpose University. The discussion stemmed out of the podcast from the director of the school. It was centered on telling one’s story as  one  of the ways of walking in the fullness of one’s purpose on this side of eternity present.

It was made clear that ,most of the time,the things we experience on this journey called Life is indicative of what each one of us is designed to be and do.

Though there were differing opinion on the subject matter, as some of the discussants were of the opinion that not all stories are worth telling, but if we look at it from the angle of using stories for the discovering of our purposes and running them well, Then it is expedient to share our stories,{The good , the bad, and the in betweens}.

Life is full of experiences, and the most authentic life on purpose is that of transparency. 

Why is it difficult to tell our story of shame,defeat, and those ones that makes look somehow with others,it is because we don’t want to be seen as weak, or vulnerable instead we try to always paint pictures of a perfect “goody too shoe” life, that is not always the truth.

Sometimes we are also afraid of taking responsibilities for those seemingly ‘ugly’ episodes of our story lines,the truth of the matter if we are truly living the God-life and totally trust him we will understand that when we own up and take responsibility, the greater the chances of freedom,that freedom leads to the freedom of others as they hear our stories.

Instead of going round and round in circles trying to find your purpose,why don’t you ask yourself, what is my story? what is the pattern of life that is peculiar to me? As you begin to ask these questions, you also find that you are able to help someone else with a similar story of life looking for a clue or two.

In your vulnerability lies also your strength,because it takes a strong person to stand and tell…it as it is! Your story is your take off point for the discovery and the pursuit of purpose.

One of the advantages of telling your story is that it frees you from the burden of keeping it to yourself,thereby causing more pain, depression and which often leads to suicidal attempts.

Telling your story is also a way of confronting your fears, because what you confront can condemn you. sometimes they may be stories of shame,that you don’t want to admit to yourself,let alone tell others because of the label or the stigma that goes with your story, the truth is once you are able to share, you get past the labeling and the stigmatization with time.

Every story can be woven into the fabric of your purpose , to create a tapestry of a life hinged on purpose with every shade of the different seasons of your life. Sometimes certain dark sides may not come as necessary inclusion because they don’t relate to one’s journey but the truth is that your freedom in telling it ,will free others.

What if my story scares people away from me? Your story of truth cannot drive people away, yes, they may not want to warm up to you at first, but with time, they will begin to come , sometimes in disguise, but they will not run away especially because you are now like a fountain spring of succor.

Looking through the pages of the Scriptures , we find purpose driven patriarchs and matriarchs who by their stories brought freedom and great deliverance for the people in their time. Moses was one major reference who at one point in his journey of life was labelled  a ‘murderer’ in trying to run away from that stigma, was the opening point for the great woek of deliverance, God had for him.

What about Apostle Paul, his stories ended up becoming great admonition and succour for the early believers,and it is still relevant through the age.

Our stories can birth great deliverance,cause reformation and bring changes to our world,when we tell the stories as it is,without being  seen as vulnerables,or weaklings.

It’s time to tell your story as it is, own it, be authentic about it, you may be saving a life as you share your exxperience on this journey of life.

Psalm 107:2

Let the redeemed of the LORD  tell their story,those he redeemed from the hand of the foe.

Have you been redeemed from tha hand of foes in the name of Domestic violence, rape,assault, depression, low self esteem,drug addiction,pornography, rejection and all those foes waging war at you?

It’s time to tell your story, someone out there needs it….Now!

 

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From one storyteller to another!

Get up and Go tell it!

Shalom

OBA2016@Thekingsoracle. All rights reserved.

*Inspired by the discussions from #PurposeUniversity.

Leap Over The Barrier Called- FEAR!

Last Sunday, I had the privilege to go minister at a Youth Church, I remember waking up with so much excitement,as I prepared myself, even my men could tell, that I was in a particular zone, as I just loved on myself and spoke words over me.

Two things brought that excitement; One I am always excited whenever I get the opportunity to stand before young people, it just gets my adrenaline bubbling-I am passionate about the future generation.

Secondly, I was beginning to embrace my calling and office with so much confidence lately,because God in His infinite mercies,will consider using an unqualified knucklehead like me,for His GLORY.

The better Understanding of my “Inchargeness” borrowing the words of my Coach is still at work in me.

As we got to the venue of the program, I was all the more overjoyed as I saw  those young ladies and young men lifting up their voices in praise to  God. The atmosphere was already electrified with the youth loving  the Lord in worship unhindered.

It was now time for my own slot on the program, as I began to sing, the spirit of  prophecy came over me, and I began to prophesy,as I  sang,to a point that I was now trying to resist the flow of the prophetic,  The more I tried to resist, the more it flowed.

There was a particular young lady in the course of the ministration, that the Lord directed me to speak over, as I did what He told me to do, I picked her from where she was to another side of the room, specifically to the choir side, that was where God wanted here to be.

Two days , later I got a call from the Pastor who had invited, and she told me things that had happened with that young lady with respect to her assignment in the youth church prior to the Sunday program, to confirm that Indeed all that happened at the program was all God’s idea- She said to me,’Please don’t be afraid of whatever God tells you to do,just comply. That was a huge encouragement for me because I know that the office and grace of the prophetic is a sensitive and delicate office.

I began to seek the Lord’s face because in recent times I have noticed the intensity with which I have been operating in the prophetic,which has subtlely created a kind of fear, As I prayed  He said  softly to my heart, “Understanding the prophetic”.

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He began to show me through scriptures and other resource materials,How I shut down the streams of the prophetic dimension out of fear by the following;

  • Feeling unworthy or good enough to prophesy
  • The anxiety that I may get it wrong. Heb 5: 14b say something about been trained and maturing as a result of constant use. If you don’t train, how will you mature? Maturing does not mean you will get it right all the time.
  • Hesitating to step out for fear of appearing foolish or stupid, i remember saying to God as I was ministering on Sunday, that I was invited to come and sing,not to start pointing at people and begin to say,”This is what the Lord is saying”.
  • Being afraid to step out of my comfort zone which is sing and make melody to God and the people, I have been reluctant to get into that space where he shows me and tells me things on the spot. It is sometimes uncomfortable!

Fear is a thief and a powerful tool of the enemy to rob us of fulfilling our God-given gift and ministry assignment, it almost robbed me on Sunday despite the initial excitement of going to be a blessing to the people, and it would have also robbed the people of benefitting from the grace of God  on one’s life as well.

It robs the church of being built up as a result of using one’s gift, and it is also a disservice to God when it robs Him of the glory that is due to him alone just because you step out to share a message from Him.

When the pastor called and gave me the testimony of that young lady, I knew it was God encouraging me to always respond to his nudging out love and reverence for Him, and also out having compassion for the people he has sent me to.

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Matthew 25;25, tells the story of one man that hid his talent because he was afraid. Fear robs us of total fulfillment when we bury the capacities deposited in us to have influence for God’s glory in the earth realm.

It’s so amazing when you hear what the result of your yielded-ness has done for other people, despite and in spite of the barrier the enemy try to put in our face.

I am still in the process of becoming more and more bold in this particular office of the prophetic, But I can say that my confidence in Christ has taken another height,especially now that He is still taking me through the dynamics of Understanding the prophetic in this season of my life.

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This is an encouragement for someone like me struggling to give full expressions to the grace of God on your life out of fear of Identity, or Intimidation or whatever

Whatever the face of that fear may be wearing,pull down the mask today, For God has not given you the spirit of fear, but the spirit of love, of power and a sound mind.

And you shall receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon you. The power to leap over barriers, especially the barrier of Fear that may want to cripple your walk and work with God.

Isa 43:5

Do not be afraid, for I am with You……

Shalom

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Wisdom Wednesday.

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Impossible is a myth

It is not real

Impossible is false evidence appearing real

Forcing you to stay still

Trapped in the cage of Illusion

Instead of following His Instruction……

To them, that believe

Anything is possible.

I believe therefore I speak

Though you fire is just a little ember

Close your eyes, see the flaming fire.

ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.

 

Enjoy a wonderful Wednesday

OBA2016@Thekingsoracle.

Stay with it,Until it sticks.

Every Monday, I do a video blog called #mondaymusing on my facebook page and on my Instagram page as well. Today I shared the topic above,”stay with it,until it sticks”- The Power and principle of vision and focus.

About a week ago,My husband bought a music CD,played it in my car, and left it there. I played it also,but there way a particular track on the CD that just appealed to my person, so I kept on playing that track, it was on repeat mode everyday that I had to drive .

It got to a point, that even while asleep I could still sing the song, It was practically playing non-stop in my head and heart. A remarkable experience it was for me, because the experiment or exercise just proved to me that when you keep doing something over and over again ,it becomes a part of you.

The same principle is applicable to life, purpose  your vision, the more you do it,and keep doing it, the more it becomes a part of you.

In the same week, I met a dear friend,who told me she read my interview in the tabloid, that as she was reasing, she just couldn’t help but appreciate the fact that I stayed with my assignment and calling against all odds, she told me, “Sis you just wouldn’t bulge to life’s threat, you kept at this assignment”.

I told her , I didn’t have any choice than to stay with it until it sticks. I tell you thare were days and season where I just wanted to give up, but then when you realise that God’s purpose for you is the reason why you are, you will summon courage and begin to push.

Vision and Purpose can only be accomplished by focusing and focusing on to the end,whatever purpose God has given you, that may be looking bleak now.Stay with it, until the end.

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There is no vision that get accomplished at the beginning of the process, at the end it speak if you only stay with it, have you given up on a dream, or projects or whatever, go back again, oick that thing up and start all over again.

You have been placed in ths earth realm for that vision, that purpose of God, so hang on in there, stay with it until it sticks, because at the end it shall speak.

Remember, Jesus Christ,he said in the scriptures, that he came for one purpose, for one vision was he sent to be the sacrifice for man, and he stayed with that assignment until the end, today, after thousands of years after, Humanity is still been blessed because of Christ.

Humanity is also waiting and counting on you to give full expressions to the mandate of God for your life,so that people can be blessed, even though it doesn’t look like much right now, I encourage as I encourage myself.

Stay with it,until it sticks!

Shalom

OBA2016@Thekingsoracle. All rights reserved.

 

Random Musing #55

True womanhood is being free enough to celebrate another sister’s triumph, and being there to weep for her mishap when it happens.Now that’s the sister love,God wants for us.

 

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Sisterbond!

 

#weareallofuscomplete

#womantowoman

#randommusing.

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Weary Wanderer.

Life is a journey and on that journey, there are those who just wander around.

Individuals  who just go through the motions, through the cycles of life, without asking questions about life in itself. They seem to see no purpose in life beyond enduring the day to day living. Just getting at the slightest chance life gives.

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To them things just happenned , no clue, no plan, no enthusiam, Nothing!

Trust me, I was once like that, clueless about why I am here, no excited about anything, because there was nothing to be excited about. (So I thought)!

Until I got to the point where I became dissatisfied about everything around me, and within me.There must be more to this Life!

I remember this old hymnal from back in the days whose first line goes like this; “weary wanderer, stop and listen!, I can’t remember the other part of the Hymn, but this first line as remained with me for as long as I can remember.

As I began to listen more, I found out , and I am still discovering  that I am made of more, in service to God and fellow Human beings, I am beginning to give full expressions to the “more’ that has been inputed in my DNA even before time began.

I began to embrace and love life more, and to be thankful and grateful for each passing moment for it a rare gift. Maintaining a positive attitude in the face of confronting low self esteem,and lack of confidence is not an easy task.  The story’s changed from ” once-upon-a-time-weary-wanderer ‘ to a vibrant ,confident ,Godchaser in pursuit-of-purpose.

To apprehend all that for which God through Christ apprehended me.

Per adventure, there is a weary wanderer, just like I used to be, reading this right now,the voice of your creator is calling on you to stop! and listen to the plans and purpose He has for you. Jer 29:11.

Maybe you know someone, in this state, Kindly love on them, show them through your acts that in deed life is beautiful,contrary to what he/she may be going through.

Let them know that they are never alone, or forsaken in this journey,show them in love that , they have a great life ahead, so they should not settle down with “going through the motion”.

Weary Wanderer stop and listen , God’s voice is calling you to reason, to life, to purpose.

Shalom,

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Resolving or Managing Conflicts.

Conflicts take place every day, it is a part of our everyday life and that is because in our day to day activities we interact with people, in the course of our interactions we find that our interests varies, and differs from one people to another.

The differences in opinion often lead to  bitterness, heartaches,broken relationships, divorce etc. We  know that conflicts are often marked by disagreement.

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Like the Bible says

Can two walk together, except they be agreed. Amos 3:3,

The issues that escalate into wars among nations are most of the time, the results of unresolved conflicts. Conflicts don’t just happen, they are as a result of many factors interwoven and interplaying together, top

the list of these factors is a breakdown of communication.

Before an argument can morph into conflicts,there are about 3 stages that it would have passed through.

*There are opposing views

*Attacking the person/persons  with the pertinent opposing views

* Which leads to frustration and over time lead to terminating such relationship.

When we understand these stages in conflicts situation, it becomes very easy to truncate conflicts and prevent them from degenerating.

Unresolved conflicts affect can cause lifetime havoc, if not checked and deal with immediately, it can  deter one’s progress,cloud your future and it can terminate dreams.

There is an old German saying,

A wise man will never look for who is wrong;rather he deals with what is wrong.

HOW DO WE RESOLVE OR MANAGE CONFLICTS SITUATION?

The only way we can resolve conflict situation is to  confront it head on.

Matthew 18:15-17

If your brother or sister sis sins, go and pointout their faults, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over……if they will not listen take one or two others along….

From the above text, here are ways that we can tackle the issues of conflicts.

  1. Make the move to resolve the conflict, take the initiative. Don’t wait for the other person, be the first to make the move.
  2. Avoid getting into arguments all the time.
  3.  Willingness to listen
  4. When you are wrong, admit it and apologize
  5. Learn to forgive and be tolerant, even when you are the offended party.
  6. Involve a third party when the issues get out of hand  and you can’t resolve alone.
  7. Pray for wisdom to handle differences, and peace in dealing with people.
  8.  In the worst case scenario, when it looks like the resolution is not possible, learn give space to the party involved.

 

Sometimes, it seems easier said than done, but when we totally yield total control to God, he gives us guidelines and wisdom to handle difficult situations and difficult people.

Remember He told us, that as much as it lies in our power to follow peace with all men.

 

Shalom,

OBA2016@Thekingsoracle. All rights reserved.

 

Also in response to Tuesday trickles with JACKIEOBYIKOCHA

 

 

A life governed by principles!

Life is governed by principles,and when you align yourself with the principles of life you will definitely succeed. To be successful at what you do is dependent on your adherence to the principles that governs what you do.

I recently enrolled for an online course , PURPOSE UNIVERSITY,which is an online platform for the discovery of purpose to be able to live life powerfully!. In the second Module of the course outline, the coach drew my attention back to the purpose of creation.

I went back into the scriptures to search and to understand Genesis Chapter 1 in its entirety, focusing on Gen 1:28, as I read and meditated on that, I decided to check Gen 1:28 in other translations. What I found in the  Amplified version was mind blowing:

And God bless them, and said to them, Be fruitful,multiply,and fill the earth and subdue it[using all its vast resources in the service of God and Man}……

I began to ponder this question in my heart,

Why is it so important to God, that man must have rulership of the Earth? 

I mean what’s the big deal with “Be fruitful, multiply and fill the earth…..

Go back a few verse from that verse 28, A Scenario is illustrated where the Trinity in Council were holding a meeting-

The sole purpose of that meeting was to  replicate the dynamics and operations of the Heavenlies in the earth realm, in order to  succeed in that plan, they will have to replicate a type of the Godhead who will have the capacity to operate in the space that had already been provided.

A representative of the Godhead with a spirit, soul, occupying a body suited for the Earth Space, who will be able to communicate unhindered in the spiritual and the physical realm interchangeably, with the ethos of the constitution -Be fruitful,multiply, fill the earth ,rule ,dominate etc.

Now you know what happened afterward, how the principle was violated and truncated by deception.

The man was given the power and position of leadership from the beginning of creation, now it does not matter,whether  you are the president of the United states of wherever, or you are a father of Seven, or you are the stay-at-home mum of 3. Every one of us has been equipped with the capacity to lead and succeed in a given parameter called “principles”.

The guidelines or code of conduct was to increase and fill the earth( your circle of Influence,using all the vast resources in the service of God and Humanity, it doesn’t matter how people may want to explain it away, The God-factor is a vital part of living a life of principle.

Many people in today’s world are in a hurry to get things done, In a hurry to “hit it big”, forgetting that there is a principle called Time/Process, and when you try to violate the process, it backfires at you, affects not only you but everyone in your circle.

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When you leverage on principles to achieve success, it is no longer a matter of chance.

An example that comes to mind is the story of the Hebrews Boys . Daniel 1. Because of the principles they held on to, they became influencers in a foreign land compared to their counterparts. They knew who they were and made up their minds not to be subjected to what was trending in their days. Their decision to stand out was not based on material acquisition but an eternal conviction.

How to distinguish a life governed by principles:

In today’s world where everyone is trying to run the Rat race, and be like the Joneses, Their is cry to return back to the basic , to understand and begin to fully live lives with true conviction,and not try to conform to the latest facades and trends,the deception been served all over the place in the name of “success”

A cry to be fruitful,and multiply in every sense of it, how would you be able to distinguish a principled lifestyle .

*You know that true success involves process and process is spelt as TIME.

*Your sense of worth and self-esteem is not based on the accumulation of “things”, but from within, knowing who you are.

Real success begins from within, like one of my mentors, Sam Adeyemi ,Success Power International says;

First within, then without!

The value of a man is not in the price of the suit he is wearing, the Louis Vuitton Bag does not define a woman of class either. The more you obey principles of life through God , the more fulfilled you become.

*A life governed by principle is a life committed to personal development- The capacity to use our instincts based on knowledge application is what makes  a man”Homo sapien” different from animals.

A human being without knowledge, however, will behave like an animal! Living by principle require development through Information.

A life governed by principles focus more on Giving than on Receiving. 

Even the bible say, “It is more blessed to give than to receive. If we go back to our reference in Gen 1:28,  The injunction says ‘using all the vast resource for the service of God and Man. The keyword is SERVICE!

A life governed by principle takes on responsibility-

Because you know that principles guarantee success,as you apply the basic principles of life ,you become a solution provider, problem -solver for others, You begin to use your gifts to benefit others around you.

It does not matter, if you don’t have a popular name, when you begin to solve issues  in your sphere of Influence, You become an essential tool in God’s hands to meet needs  for others.

Christ lived an exemplary life governed by Principles, In his less than four years assignment on the earth realm, he walked circumspectly in those principles, He became our example. He was proactive in his dealings, and lived a balanced life!

Little wonder, Apostle Paul wrote about him, in Philippians 2;5-11, starting with this statement that has become my favourite tagline.

“Let this mind be in you as it was in Christ Jesus:

 

A life governed by principle must live out Genesis 1:28, in the service of God and Humanity.

 

Happy Weekend Ahead,

OBA2016@Thekingsoracle. All rights reserved.