2017, Will forever be an unforgettable year of twists and turns for me. I don’t think I will ever forget that year, not in a hurry anyway.
Towards the year-end 2016, I embark on certain journeys to becoming a better version of me. I enrolled in Leadership Institutes, Purpose academy here and there.to crown that year up, I signed up for a goal setting master class with one of Nigeria’s finest Life coaches.
By the time I was done with the Masterclass, oh my, This girl was ready to take 2017 by storm. I had just been thoroughly tutored on how to maximize every 12 areas of my life for peak performance, talked about being turbocharged. Yes, I was ready…
As we entered into the new year, I started off with a strategy session I had planned to do with a few of my friends in attendance, my living room was filled with people who were professional, business owners in their own right. we had a long session and it was a success from the feedback I got afterwards. One mission accomplished and ticked off, it looks like it going to be a great year after all.
I had also started writing a new book, with the tasks of writing at least 500 words per day, things were really looking up. with regards to my music ministry assignment, I had the privileged opportunity to minister in songs to inmates at the maximum prison in Lagos, that was a surreal experience for me, as I saw men and women who were incarcerated, without any hope of amnesty, worship God with their whole heart as if there was no tomorrow.
Things were happening according to plan, except for the fact that I began to notice an unusualness in my body physiology, to the extent that one afternoon, my appetite took a strange turn, that was when I knew something wasn’t right. For the life of me, I didn’t pay any attention to my menstrual circle because it wasn’t always a regular flow and because I was almost nearing the menopausal stage I couldn’t be bothered so to speak.
Little did I know what I was in for. Still feeling that unusualness in my body, I decided to take a pregnancy test just to be sure it wasn’t what I was not thinking. Lo and behold the test came positive. I WAS PREGNANT!!
No way! How come? This must be a mistake! Not me? LORD why me? This is not what I planned for? at what age? after how many years? This must be some kind of joke. As the many questions reeled out in my mind, it seems my whole world of excitement and enthusiasm for the new year just collapsed.
Instead of being excited about the pregnancy, the feeling of sadness and disappointment overwhelmed me. I wasn’t expecting this kind of news in my wildest imagination. Almost immediately all the drive to tick off my pursuit for the year was replaced by hormonal imbalance.
Many are the plans in a man’s heart but it is the plan of God that will prevail.
This scripture was my number one lesson. I had planned so many things that I would do by God’s grace, little did I know that God had a major plan for me. Despite the fact that I went into depression for months, He never failed to always reassure me, that everything was going to be alright. In case you are wondering why I was sad and depressed over something that I should be jumping for Joy. Well! I didn’t ask to be pregnant, as far as I was concerned I had been done with making babies for over 12 years now.
Another Scripture also in Proverbs, say;
Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring forth.
It’s okay to make plans, don’t get me wrong because we cant just go about living life without focus, but at the same time we should bear in mind that life’s unpredictable and we shouldn’t presume on it, on the other hand, there is no need to worry because we know that God is in control. I couldn’t realise that sooner, I was blinded by the fact that all my plans and desires had been ruined by my new status. I couldn’t fathom in my myopic mind that God had a better idea for my 2017 than I could imagine.
It’s Friday, the end of another working week. It is also the day I get to spend time with my team of musicians to rehearse, pray and generally prepare ourselves for the programs we have ahead.
We haven’t met in the last two weeks, so today’s meeting was very crucial and important too because I have been doing some mental assessment of the team, and also planning new goals to achieve collectively.
As they came in one after the other, I started engaging them in conversation buttressing on the need for all of to step up in other to take the team to another level of productivity and higher impact in our service first to God and then humanity.
As Stephen Covey said, about the 8 habit, moving from effectiveness to greatness. As you grow it is important to help others to grow by helping them to unleash their human potentials and capabilities to the fullest- This is one of the main cruces of true leadership. when a leader has found his or her voice in which lies the discovery of talents, understanding passion and using the talents and passion to meet the needs around with a clear conscience to do right and be right then it is expedient that the leader helps those around him to find theirs as well.
I believe this is a kind of paying it forward in leadership.
“In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out.It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. we should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.” ALBERT SCHWEITZER.
How can you help other people find their voices? First and Foremost you must have found yours. We are always surrounded by people- family, friends, workmate, colleagues, church community and on and on.
Affirming others- Offering emotional support and encouragement to the people around us, helping them to be the best version of themselves at every point in time. This is so important in the parent relationship with their children.
Unite others- Making all joints supply for a common goal, it is the responsibility of leadership to combine and incorporate so as to form a single whole.
Motivate and inspire- provide them with a reason to do something, propel them and not only that make them feel they have the potentials to achieve the unimaginable.
providing the enabling environment for others to thrive- voices can’t be found in a harsh and austere environment, therefore the onus is on leaders to provide an environment where people can blossom with their talents and passion.
In what ways are you helping the people around you to find their voices? Remember everything rises and falls on Leadership, whether in the home front or at work or in the community.
‘When you find your voice, you motivate and help others find theirs.
The last one year or so had been filled with so many rhythmic interludes in my life. But I am excited to be back here to gradually get my writing groove back and catch up with all my blogger friends. I hope to share some of those rhythmic interludes in the days ahead.
Song my favorite word. Singing has become second nature to me, The feeling that overwhelms me when I take the microphone and stand on the stage, truly I was born for this. Music found me,and lyrical expression was embedded in my loins, such that even in my sleep ,I am singing a song.
Different songs resonate with me at a different season. lately, I was having difficulties coping with major disappointment,because of the setback, I found that I was emitting negative energy,I didn’t want that.
I just found myself going back to a song I have just written and recorded like a dummy recording, Listening to that song over and over again melted my heart,and reaffirms the Father’s love for me [God]. Even when it seems I am facing a disappointment , I am never alone,my father’s love overwhelms me, helping to see things in the right perspective and helping me realise that there is always a way out. Now that’s the power of a song.
The great Reggae music legend, Bob Marley had this to say about music and song,
One good thing about music,when it hits you, you feel no pain.
Many times in life we face situations pleasant and unpleasant, we are faced with challenges that almost want to snuff life out of us , but as soon a you hear a song that resonates with you, it emits a beautiful feeling and you almost forget what you are going through.
Songs and smells will bring you back to a moment in time than anything else. It’s amazing how much can be conjured witha few notes of a song ora solitary whiff of a room.-Emily Giffin.
Music found me. Always be in command of your Music.